Red flags
Sudden romance, money requests, crypto tips, endless ads, or pressure to move off-app immediately are warning signs.
Protect personal data
Do not share address, ID numbers, workplace details, or financial info early. Let trust grow letter by letter.
Healthy boundaries
You can slow down, stop replying, or report/block. A good pen pal respects pace and consent.
Why slow mail helps
Delayed letters give you time to think—making scams and impulsive oversharing less likely than instant chat.
FAQ
Someone asked me for money—what now?
Stop contact, do not pay, and report the user. Real friendships do not start with financial requests.
Is it safe to share photos?
Share only what you are comfortable with. Avoid documents or images that reveal sensitive locations early on.
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