Tip 1: Write a clear profile

Share interests, languages, and why you want pen pals. Vague profiles get vague matches.

Tip 2: Prefer fit over volume

Message fewer people with stronger overlap. Slow social rewards depth.

Tip 3: Send a replyable first letter

Include one personal detail and one open question. Make answering easy.

Tip 4: Give matching time

International letters move slower by design. Refresh preferences weekly instead of chasing instant replies.

FAQ

Why am I not getting matches?

Incomplete profiles and generic first letters are common causes. Add specifics and try again.

Should I write in English only?

Write in a language you share. Mention alternatives if you are open to more than one language.

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